{"id":138,"date":"2014-07-04T14:48:00","date_gmt":"2014-07-04T14:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tamaragranthambooks.com\/2014\/07\/battling-the-what-if-monster\/"},"modified":"2015-11-13T15:20:46","modified_gmt":"2015-11-13T15:20:46","slug":"battling-the-what-if-monster","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/battling-the-what-if-monster\/","title":{"rendered":"Battling the WHAT IF Monster"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The WHAT IF monster&#8211;does he plague you? Does he bring worries to your mind that only make your problems worse? If so, be warned. And read on.<\/p>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-12Mx_ElHLbc\/U7a9e2yA2RI\/AAAAAAAABAU\/g2KzBLwU3TI\/s1600\/toy+monster.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"><img decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/toy-monster.jpg\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n<p>I have a confession to make. I worry. A lot. Too much. I&#8217;ve got a nasty stomach ulcer to prove it. I know I shouldn&#8217;t worry so much, but sometimes my mind gets swept away with my worries, and I can&#8217;t concentrate on anything but the WHAT IF&#8217;s. For example, &#8220;What if I can&#8217;t find a good school for my kids?&#8221; &#8220;What if my husband works longer hours?&#8221; &#8220;What if I can&#8217;t publish my book?&#8221; &#8220;What if my car breaks down?&#8221; &#8220;What if I can&#8217;t pay my bills?&#8221; &#8220;What if my kids get sick?&#8221; &#8220;What if I&#8217;m a bad mom?&#8221; &#8220;What if I&#8217;m not thin enough?&#8221; &#8220;What if another hurricane comes&#8230;?&#8221;<br \/>\nYou get the picture. Some of my what if&#8217;s are based on actual problems. Some of them are legitimate concerns. But do I really need to worry about them? What can worrying do except make my stomach ulcer hurt more?<br \/>\nSo I&#8217;ve decided to shut up my WHAT IF monster. If a thought comes into my head that starts with a WHAT IF&#8211;I reverse it. For example, &#8220;What if I can&#8217;t sell my books?&#8221;<br \/>\nInstead I reverse the thought. &#8220;What if I <i>can<\/i> sell my books?&#8221; <br \/>\nOr, &#8220;What if my husband works really long hours?&#8221; Switched around, &#8220;What if my husband doesn&#8217;t work long hours?&#8221;<br \/>\nThe truth is, I don&#8217;t know what the future holds. It may be really awful or it may turn out just fine. I&#8217;ve faced trials and challenges before. I&#8217;m still here. I&#8217;m still happy. Even if the worst outcome happens, I&#8217;ll deal with it just like I&#8217;ve always done in the past. <br \/>\nWill I be able to never worry again? Doubtful. But at least I&#8217;m confronting a weakness and trying to improve. And I&#8217;m not going to worry about it!<br \/>\nDo you have a WHAT IF monster lurking in your brain? If so, how do you overcome your worries?<\/p>\n<p>And now, to shamelessly plug my own book&#8230;Overcoming your fears is a theme I&#8217;ve incorporated in my latest novella. Shine 10, Never Say Reven, is now available on Amazon. Click <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Never-Say-Reven-Shine-Book-ebook\/dp\/B00KVJJJNE\/ref=sr_1_3?s=digital-text&#038;ie=UTF8&#038;qid=1404484358&#038;sr=1-3&#038;keywords=tamara+grantham\">here<\/a> for a free sample!<\/p>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/-zfMEeSUj4uU\/U7a7pNyI1vI\/AAAAAAAABAI\/7YBUbikoOpM\/s1600\/Shine+10+Kindle.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"><img decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/Shine-10-Kindle1.jpg\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The WHAT IF monster&#8211;does he plague you? Does he bring worries to your mind that only make your problems worse? If so, be warned. And read on. I have a confession to make. I worry. A lot. Too much. I&#8217;ve got a nasty stomach ulcer to prove it. I know I shouldn&#8217;t worry so much, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1328,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-138","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/138","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=138"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/138\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1330,"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/138\/revisions\/1330"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1328"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=138"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=138"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamaragrantham.com\/StagingSite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=138"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}